Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Midnight Musings




"Treat others the way you want to be treated." The old adage has been running through my head a great deal as of late. All of us have heard this quote, time and again, from our parents and teachers--mostly as a warning not to be "ugly" to our friends and other students. However, I think it's something that should definitely be held onto into adulthood.

Why build bonds with people if they cannot count on you, and vice versa. I've always been one to expect the same considerations--I give, from friends and colleagues; but that is not always the case. MOST of the time. And to me, that is sad. It's too much a waste of my time to get angry. I realize how people are and then just move on. But, I always ask myself. Then why is this person my friend?

Everyone has friends for different walks of life. The friend you vent to, the friend that won't judge you no matter what you tell them, your work wife/husband, the friend you get drunk with, the friend you make go to awkward family outings with you, etc. But, I would hope that these friends would treat you the way you treat them.

With our crazy lives it's hard enough to maintain a real relationship with someone. We get caught up in the everyday hustle. But we all hope to be able to count on our friends when we need them. And ladies and gentlemen, that is not necessary always the outcome.

I'm not saying go out of your way to do things for people. Or be extra nice if that's not your personality. But, next time someone asks something of you, or you're in a situation where you can help. Definitely, take a second to think about it. Perhaps it really won't "put you out". Consider the reaction you would want/expect if you were the one asking. How would you want the person to respond to your request?


Has this happened to your recently? What did you do in order to fix it? Did you say anything? Reconsider the friendship?

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23 comments:

  1. Friendship is such a sacred bond. It's the relationship we get to choose to have (as opposed to blood family). Respect and trust are so critical and you're right...you should always treat others the way you want to be treated back. With today's fast paced society and the ability to keep in touch digitally, we often take for granted how things sound or how they seem to other people. A personal reach out to someone makes a world of difference. It does for me. =)
    xo,
    nancy

    http://adoretoadorn.blogspot.com

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  2. so compelling...just tonight...a man and his son rang our doorbell at a time I would consider late. Annoyed. They were returning a borrowed item and with it some home made fudge and some drinkipoos. It was a very dear gesture that I would have preferred at 5 PM not 8...but I "cooled my jets", changed my attitude, sat and had the nicest visit. They were grateful for the borrow and I was annoyed at their gratefulness...good gosh...be nice! Your post just made it all the more real to me!

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    1. Love this! Things like this happen all the time! Glad you "cooled you jets"! 9 times out of 10 its always a good time!

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  3. Love this post! Everything you said is so true. It is so important to show those around us that you care and that you love them. Come to think of it, this post is perfect with Valentines Day right around the corner. Maybe the way to show someone you care is to surprise them with a sweet treat for the 14th. xx. McKenna Lou
    www.lynnandlou.com

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  4. We always should show ourselves friendly first. I have also found that with time evaluating your friendships are important... keeping those close who uplift you but can also appreciate you for who you are. /Madison :)

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  5. Friendship is very important, however I find it extremely hard to find a real friend at this point of my life =( I will keep trying.
    LA By Diana Live Magazine

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  6. very cool.
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  7. very cool! i love it!! xoxo

    Emma <3
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  8. This is very interesting post because honestly I always go out of my way to help people when I can (friends or people who really aren't friends) but I'm generally a very nice person who will go above and beyond. It is hard for me because sometimes I don't feel it in return. Anyway, it isn't worth losing great friendships over if I get angry they don't offer in return I realize maybe its not their personality. I've started saying no more often just because it really isn't going to do me or the other person any good.

    Lately, we asked some friends a favor and they immediately shot us down. It was a bit surprising and I thought, well they must have a good reason right? I just wonder if they thought it through... I always try to think through favors before saying yes or no!

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    1. Exactly! I'm the same way! I know sometimes you just feel overwhelmed and adding another thing to your list is the last thing you want to do. But, most of the time the favor really isn't something that's going to totally throw your world for a loop. You know?

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  9. I really like this post and it is very thought provoking. That is a motto that I strongly live by and as you get older friendships don't form as easy or quickly as they did in the school playground. When a friend does something that can sometimes be seen as unforgivable it is hard to go back to 'being normal' and sometimes can result to a break in friendship.

    But, when you do find that extra special bond with someone, you just know.

    Lou

    www.thekeypieces.co.uk

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    1. Love this! You do just "know" when you have a special bond with someone. I read an article today about how and why you lose so many friends in your twenties and one of them was getting into an argument and not having to see the other person everyday like when you were in school or college and then how quickly time passes. Definitely put some things into perspective.

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  10. I will do anything (for pretty much anyone) and I'm so lucky to say that my friends are the same way. We always have each other's backs. I think when you find that, you try to hang on to it as best as you can–it's definitely rare!

    Alyssa
    The Glossy Life

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  11. That first photograph is absolutely stunning! It's making me so excited to be traveling to Europe in the coming months! Eee!
    xo TJ

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  12. You´re so right! In Germany we are saying "Was man sät, wird man ernten." I think this is similar when its said in English: "They sow the wind and reap the whirlwind."

    I try really to treat everybody how I want to be treaten and to be honest: mostly it works (also if I´m not so nice I´m treatend not so nice)

    Thank you so much for your thoughts and sharing with us.

    xxx
    Rena

    http://dressedwithsoul.blogspot.de

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    1. Very true! Totally agree with you. You gotta put out into the world what you want in return!

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  13. I usually ask myself he she or he been there for me when I was down although she or he is being not so nice right now for something stupid. If the answer is yes, then I just deal with the situation. if no, then I usually form an idea on what kind of friendship I have with the person.

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    1. Interesting idea. Definitely using that next time!

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  14. Interesting think to think about... I've always been more likely to have a small group of friends that I could really trust to be there rather than a lot of friends who maybe weren't reliable so I like to think that if any of them needed me I would be there for them!

    elle [wonderfelle world]

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